Step 10 – Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Tradition 10 – The Al-Anon Family Groups have no opinion on outside issues, hence our name never be drawn into public controversy.
Concept 10 – Service responsibility is balanced by carefully defined authority and double-headed management is avoided.
Step 9 – Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Step 9 is an action step in which we become humble enough to verbalize our regrets, if appropriate to the people we have harmed.
In making amends, we need to understand we are not necessarily making an apology. In making amends , we may state our errors, our role in the incident, and that we will correct our behavior for the future.
Tradition 9 – Our groups , as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
In our fellowship, the Al Anon group members are equals and no one member is viewed as an executive or in charge.
Because on of our chief defects is a tendency to control in order to be safe, Tradition 9 is excellent counsel. Applying it allows us to trust our groups to a Higher Power and trust each other with a minimum of constraints and no ability to force compliance.
Concept 9 – Good personal leadership at all service levels is a necessity.
A leader is a person who can put principles, plans and policies into such dedicated and effective action that the rest of us want to back him up and help him with his job.