Al Anon’s logo is a triangle with a circle inside. The three sides of the triangle symbolize our three Legacies: Recovery through acceptance of the steps, Unity through acceptance of the Traditions, and Service through acceptance of the Concepts.
The Steps show me how to love myself; the Traditions show me how to love others, and the Concepts show me how to love the world I live in.
April is the fourth month.
Step Four Made a searching and moral inventory of ourselves. This brings us to the truth about ourselves. If we blame others for our shortcomings, we continue to live as victims. But if we look at our behavior, perceptions and attitudes with genuine honesty, we realize much of our misery is self-inflicted. My first fourth step was steeped in anxiety, but the results were glorious – a real boost to self-acceptance.
Tradition Four Each group should be autonomous, except in matters affecting another group or Al-Anon or AA as a whole. This tradition helps us understand the boundary between what is within our control and what isn’t. Learning to find the balance between our autonomy and someone else’s is the mature alternative to the loneliness of total freedom or absolute control.
Concept Four Participation is the key to harmony. Concept Four addresses a deep spiritual need – belonging. This participation is based on the foundation of mutual respect. Mutual respect, however, cannot take place without self-respect. In Al Anon to learn to respect ourselves.
March is the third month.
Step 3 “made a decision to turn our will over to the care of God as we understood Him” Step 3 is accepting help from a Power greater than ourselves and made a decision to place our lives in the care of that Power. We had been trying to solve our problems, make choices and determine our actions, by means of our fallible human wisdom and will power alone.
Tradition 3 “The relatives of alcoholics, when gathered together for mutual aid, may call themselves an Al Anon Family Group, provided that, as a group, they have no other affiliations. The only requirement for membership is there be a problem of alcoholism in a friend or a relative. ” By keeping the Al Anon program our primary focus, we provide mutual aid that is unique to Al Anon.